How to be Cool

Have you always wanted to be the cool guy, who always seem to do the right thing? Or maybe stand out from your friends? Well, I’m going to teach you how you can achieve that. First of all,  keep in mind that being yourself is part of being cool. Don’t try or pretend to be someone you’re not. You may have seen some cool guys out there that you wish to become. However, it doesn’t work like that. The more you pretend to be someone you’re not, the more obvious your friends can tell that you’re trying too hard. Also know that being cool doesn’t mean you turn negative and start doing drugs, alcohol or smoke because these things are obviously bad for your health and its the wrong way to go. Once you have the right mindset of being cool, its time to work on self presentation. The way you present yourself to others is one of the most important thing. Carry yourself in a good manner, meaning walk with a good posture and maintain eye contact when having conversations with your friends as you want to look confident when you’re speaking. The next step is to practice some decent hygiene. Be sure to brush your teeth everyday and take a shower at least twice a day. If you’re a guy, spray deodorant on yourself to have a nice fragrant smell. If you’re a girl then use perfume. When you have made all these steps a habit, you will begin to feel more confident and even cool already. However, there are still many more ways where you can improve to looking your coolest. I will share a few more methods that you need to know. Being friendly is also an important point as everyone loves someone who is outgoing, but don’t get too excited about things as you’ll lose your cool that way. When talking to a group of friends, be sure to be confident in your speech. Don’t be afraid to speak up and don’t mumble to yourself. Try not to pause and say things like, uh,um,er because cool guys speak with confidence. A little bit of humor won’t hurt as well. Finally, understand that some people might just not get it as they may have a different look or perspective of a cool person so don’t be discouraged when your friends don’t see the cool guy in you. But i assure you if you follow this steps, you will definitely be a much confident and cooler person in the future. And i would also like to stress that bad behavior is not cool at all. Don’t go around looking for trouble or bully others as people will see that you’re just an attention seeker. So this is the end of my ‘How to be Cool’ guide. Hope it helps you out and good luck!

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Introverts vs Extroverts

Our lives are shaped by our personalities, gender or race. We’re told that to be great is to be bold, to be happy and sociable. We see ourselves as a world of extroverts which means we lost sight of who we really are. Extroverts and introverts have different personality traits and style. The typical extroverts is outgoing, risk taking, makes quick decisions even if the risk of being wrong and works well in groups. Introversion is the state of or tendency towards being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one’s own mental life. Introverts living in a extrovert ideal is like women living in a men’s world. If you’re an introvert, you’ll also know that being quiet causes psychic pain. As a child you may have overheard your parents apologize for your shyness or in school you were told to come out of your shell. You’ve might also been told that you’re in your head too much, the phrase that is often used to the quiet and shy people. But there is another word for such people, thinkers. Scientist have shown that introverts and extroverts work differently. An extrovert prefers working fast, makes rash decisions and comfortable in multitasking. They enjoy the thrill of the chase for rewards like money and status. Introverts tend to work more slowly and deliberately, they prefer to work on one task at a time and are good at concentrating. When it comes to social styles, extroverts are confident, they think out loud and prefer talking then listening. Extroverts recharge their batteries by socializing. Whereas for introverts, they enjoy sharing their thoughts to close friends, prefers listening then talking, likes to express their emotions through writing and enjoys deep discussions. Introverts recharge their batteries by being alone. However do not get confused by shyness and introversion. Shyness is a fear of social disapproval and humiliation while introversion is a preference of environments that are not overstimulating. One reason that people get confused of this two concepts is because they sometimes overlap. But for all their differences, shyness and introversion have in common something profound. The mental state of a shy introvert sitting quietly in a business meeting maybe very different from a calm introvert. The shy person is afraid to speak up while the calm one is simply overstimulated. While to the outside world, the two appears the same. This blinds us to things that are good, smart and wise. No matter if you’re an introvert or an extrovert, doesn’t mean that your actions are predictable. We can’t say that all introverts are bookworms or all extroverts likes sports. There is no such thing as a pure extrovert or introvert. Such a person would be a lunatic. This is because we are all complex individuals and there are so many different kinds of introverts and extroverts. Introversion and extroversion interact with our other personality traits and personal histories, producing different kind of people.

This short passage is inspired by ”Quiet: The power of introverts” by Susan Cain

Life gets better

So what’s the point of living? To those of you who are facing life problems, be it financial, relationships, family, etc. You may be at the point where you’re giving up on life because you’re broke or you had just lost a good relationship, you simply gave up trying to make things better for yourself. You decided to end all the pain that you’re going through and that may be suicide for some of you. Life is tough, we all know that. But choosing to end your life because you just can’t solve your problems is the wrong way to go. We all have been through tough times in our lives and this is a fact, everyone does. That’s just what life is . We fall, we pick ourselves up, never give in, never give up. I have been through really hard times in my life as well, where i also felt that there is no purpose for me to carry on . One day I found myself standing on the roof of my thirty-story building apartment, I was thinking of ending it all just like you. But at that very moment, I stopped. I thought to myself if what I was doing was the right thing. Was suicide the right way? or is it an act of cowardly? Simply afraid to face the world. That’s when i suddenly snapped and came to my senses. After that day, I faced my problems one by one and never gave up. Soon enough, my life went back to normal. I was happy again. Imagine if I had stopped thinking and just jumped off that building. My chance of making my life right again would be gone. So to all of you out there who are going through a lot of pain and misery, thinking of ending it once and for all. I would like you to stop and think. Your fate is in your hands, whatever you’re planning to do next, think about it because you’re not alone. Trust me, life gets better. ”There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” – Albert Einstein.

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